Who do you have in your life that has refrigerator rights? Relationships happen at different levels. There are those people in our lives who are just acquaintances, others who are “friends” and others who have fridge rights. They are people who I would categorize as “family”. They are the people who you are so comfortable with you tell them “to get their own coke”. They feel free to offer you something out of your own kitchen. Some of you are right now freaking out inside. One, you would never think about doing that to someone else and two, you would be offended if someone did that to you. Could it be that you are missing out one one of the deepest and most meaningful levels of relationships? It has been these relationships (rare as they are in my own life) that have had some of the most meaningful and transforming impact in my life. It is at this level that the masks come off and the reality of our struggles come out and the honesty of a friend changes our life forever.
Do you have any friends with refrigerator rights? What fears, hurts, histories, are keeping you out of the kitchen with a few people? What would it take for you to “get connected”? Maybe you have discovered this true in your life. What would you share with those who are struggling to find deep meaningful relationships?